In order to understand and have compassion for others we must first understand ourselves.
Use the following to help yourself understand your self, your emotions, your needs. Once you master working on understanding yourself, communicating with others, particularly your children becomes easier.
As anyone who has listened to our podcast knows, internal change does not happen overnight, it takes practice. So, bookmark this page and practice daily?
This is an exercise to do with yourself. If you keep practicing you may find that you do with others unconsciously, which isn’t a bad thing.
- When X happened (use “someone”, not “you” or a specific person’s name, and keep it as simple as you are able)
- I felt (Pick Emotion from list below)
- I realize I have a need for (Pick an unmet Need from list below).
- I am willing to do Z to give myself what I need. Make Z specific and measurable.
Ideally you use one or two sentences to express to yourself what happened.
If you want to you can change the last bullet to communicate with another person.
“Would you be willing to (Request)? ” (Make this specific and measurable.)
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